“Good Fences Make Good Neighbors”

Stress occurs in life even when there are no health challenges. You have good days and bad ones. Life does not stop when we are ill or are mentally overwhelmed. We must keep chugging along. Making the most out of what we can. I have introduced coping skills for stress management (see post 7). Coping skills for stress are helpful and can combat intrusive thoughts and behaviors. Another tool for your tool box is to live within your emotional limits and let go of tension whenever you can.

What does it mean to live within your emotional limits? We all know people who take, take, and take. We must set limits on how much energy we are willing to give. It’s crucial for our health that we are sure to leave some energy for ourselves. If limits and are not set, feeling overwhelmed quickly occurs. Boundaries and limits are not what we WISH were true, they are what is ALREADY true.

Here Are Some Keys Actions To Assist:

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Identify your limits and boundaries
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Limit what you take on. Plan everything in pencil and be sure to express that you may have to cancel.
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It is important to conserve your energy for activities and conversations you find uplifting
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Don’t try to justify your boundaries
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Share your expectations for social distancing before visits
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Please commit these two phrases to memory and use them. “I would rather not say more about this” and “This is not helpful.”
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Don’t be too shy to respectfully share your boundaries

Boundaries Can Be Set With:

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Family 
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Friends
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Romantic relationships
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Coworkers
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Strangers
Use your newly learned strategies to help strengthen your position on boundaries!
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