It is difficult not to live in fear. No one knows how to respond to a cancer diagnosis. I was in the complete Denial stage in Kubler-Ross’ Stages of Grief. I believed that I wasn’t part of the breast cancer group. It took breast cancer coming back a few times ending with stage 4 breast cancer before I accepted the diagnosis. I had a young son that needed his mom. I made a memory chest for him to receive after I passed, because I knew I wouldn’t be there. It included: what I wanted him to wear to his first interview, cards for mile-stone birthdays, cuff links and sweaters, and cards for engagement and marriage with personal notes. At the time of my first diagnosis my son was only 3 years old. By the time I was diagnosed with stage IV, he was 5 years old. I didn’t think I would see him graduate from high school. But God moved me from the place of fear through the Stages of Grief and delivered me to the final stage of Acceptance. My son is now in his final year of college. Praise God I got to see it all!


Not everyone will survive, if God needs you, he will take you. What matters most is that you live the best life you can while you’re here. Take steps to improve your mood by following steps I’ve introduced before.

  • Exercise 
  • Think positive thoughts 
  • Surround yourself with positive people 
  • Give yourself a healthy break from negative thoughts  
  • Practice yoga 
  • Practice mindfulness 
  • Meditate
  • Practice relaxation techniques and difficulty concentrating techniques
  • Invite others into your life; do not socially isolate 
  • Follow healthy thoughts to not self-blame

These tips along with any thoughts, prayers, or music that stimulate relaxation should help you successfully deal with your anxiety. Putting you in a more positive state of mind will allow you the strength to deal with this journey. This will not come easily. But don’t give up! Setbacks will happen. Refocus and start again! Your thoughts control your body.  


Change your disposition, implement positivity, and hold on to HOPE.

This will change your life