You can beat this with the right tools! My goal is to shift you to a mindfully positive stage of life. Mindfulness means paying full attention to something. It means slowing down to really notice what you’re doing. Being mindful is the opposite of hurrying or multitasking. When you’re mindful, you’re taking your time. You’re focusing in a relaxed, easy way. A good example is to look at children playing. They are in the positive moment. Their only focus is on playing not thinking about things that happened at breakfast or will happen at dinner. Enjoying the present moment is their only concern.

Mindfulness and relaxation are used with cancer patients to help calm the mind, reduce stress, and sharpen their ability to focus. I want you to be aware of all these sensations while moving you to a place of “mental comfort” with a positive focus. A move from despair and depression to hope and a positive outlook. That’s easy to say. Yes, it will be challenging and take effort. But you can achieve this with some tools!

Cognitive Reframing

  • This technique is very important in your battle because it will change the way you see the enemy.
  • CR help us turn those negative thoughts that influence our actions into positive thinking
    • Avoid mental errors, such as blaming, emotional reasoning, irrational conclusions, labeling, mislabeling, magnification, minimization, etc.
    • Develop your mental awareness
    • Challenge conclusions
    • Replace your faulty beliefs

Negative Thought-Stopping

  • This technique helps to control your restless, confused, and unsettled mind (“Monkey Mind”)
    • Keep your mind focused on one thing: book, movie, writing, etc.
    • Accept that you can tame the monkey mind
    • Listen to it and find solutions to the worries
    • Meditate when your monkey mind is in full swing
    • Create a trigger word and recite it aloud when your mind is restless
    • A trigger word is a word, thought, or memory that makes you think of happier times

The negative thought of death due to breast cancer must be stopped. If you must verbally say, “STOP!” or wear a rubber band on your wrist and give yourself a “pop” when you slip into negative thought, do it. Replace the negative thought with a positive thought using your trigger word.

Positive Self-Talk

  1. The most useful and effective tool! 
  2. Self-talk is a practice of using your mind to say things about yourself to yourself
  3. Self-talk can be either positive or negative

When you say things that bring your spirit down, you have engaged in negative self-talk. When you tell yourself good things that make you strong and optimistic, you are engaging in positive self-talk.

Another great tip to use with negative thought-stopping and positive self-talk techniques are positive affirmations.  Some examples are:

  1. I am a fighter
  2. I have the power over my feelings
  3. I can overcome metastasis
  4. I know myself and what I can do
  5. I refuse to think negatively
  6. God uniquely and specially made me; no disease can destroy me
  7. I am an adventurous woman; I have many things to explore
  8. I will show love and kindness to myself and others today

I know you can do this! Power On!